Male Domestic Abuse by Females

Domestic violence is a huge issue in today’s society. From daily news reports of sexual assault in the home to studies on the effects of psychological harassment by a spouse, the attention we are paying to this millennia-old problem can cautiously be viewed as an optimistic development.

However, in addition to the fact that we are way too far from being “done” with domestic violence to ignore it, our constant exposure means that certain stereotypes have begun to color our perceptions of what domestic violence is and who it affects. While it is true that women are much more likely to be victims in domestic situations, we are collectively prone to ignoring the idea that males may be victims of females in these settings as well.

So many people consider this to be simply impossible, or think of it in terms of purely emotional abuse. How can a man be physically abused by a woman? Aren’t men stronger? Can’t they defend themselves on a basic level that women cannot?

Unfortunately, these assumptions – held in virtually every society around the world – merely enforce status-quo stereotypes of males being dominant or powerful and women submissive. The truth is that every relationship is based on different dynamics. Physical violence in the home can affect males in the exact same way as it affects females – they can routinely suffer the blows, the insults, and the threats, without feeling the confidence and courage to get help.

For males, this problem is compounded by the very issue of their masculinity. Oftentimes, the shame of being abused by a woman is so overpowering that the very idea of getting help is impossible. The male should be powerful, the breadwinner, the decision-maker. “Who would take me seriously?”, these victims often think.

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Male violence perpetrated by females in domestic settings is real, and it is on the rise. Wives can be just as violent toward their husbands without the latter “deserving it” somehow, but coming forward about it goes against virtually every idea of gender and power that our society holds. If you find yourself in this situation, you absolutely cannot be afraid of getting help. Contact your local authorities and get to a safe location.

For help investigating legal measures you can take against an abusive spouse or partner, contact the experienced San Jose Family lawyers at the offices of Daniel Jensen, P.C. today by calling 408-296-4100.